Declarative Language with Linda K. Murphy (Two-Part Podcast)

Declarative Language with Linda K. Murphy (Two-Part Podcast)

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In this podcast, Gemini from the PDA Society is joined by Linda Murphy, author of The Declarative Language Handbook and The Co-Regulation Handbook, to explore how declarative language can support PDA children and young people.

Linda explains the difference between declarative and imperative language, and why shifting from telling and directing to wondering and noticing can reduce anxiety and defensiveness. The conversation explores how questions, commands, and corrections can inadvertently increase demand sensitivity, particularly for children with a PDA profile.

Gemini and Linda discuss how declarative language creates space for autonomy, supports problem-solving, and strengthens connection. Rather than giving instructions, declarative statements share observations, feelings, or information—allowing the child to process and respond without feeling controlled.

Part 1: Understanding Declarative Language

Part 1 focuses on understanding the principles behind declarative language, how it supports co-regulation, and why small shifts in communication can have a powerful impact in both home and school settings.

Key Themes

• The difference between declarative and imperative language

• How direct instructions can increase anxiety for PDA children

• Supporting autonomy and problem-solving through communication

• The link between declarative language and co-regulation

• Reducing demand while maintaining connection

• Using language to create safety rather than compliance

Part 2: Applying Declarative Language

In Part 2, Gemini continues the conversation with Linda Murphy, exploring how declarative language can be applied in more specific and complex situations.

Linda reflects on how declarative language can be adapted for both home and school environments, and the importance of consistency across settings. The discussion includes practical examples such as responding during moments of escalation, avoiding a return to directive habits, and supporting adults to develop new communication approaches.

The episode also explores how declarative language supports long-term independence. Rather than controlling behaviour in the moment, this approach helps children develop their own problem-solving skills and internal regulation over time.

Part 2 offers deeper practical insight, encouraging parents and professionals to practise small shifts in language, remain patient with themselves, and recognise that habit change takes time.

Key Themes

• Applying declarative language in school and home settings

• Supporting adults to shift long-standing communication habits

• Responding to escalation without increasing demand

• Building long-term independence through co-regulation

• The importance of consistency across caregivers

• Practising language shifts with patience and self-compassion

Disclaimer

The views and opinions expressed by guest speakers in this podcast are their own and do not necessarily reflect those of the PDA Society.

While we aim to provide balanced and inclusive discussions, individual experiences and perspectives may vary. The PDA Society is committed to using language and terminology that reflects the preferences of PDA and autistic people; however, some guests may use language that differs.

Appearance on our podcast is not an endorsement of an individual, and not all guests will align with our position on the issues discussed.

Further Support and Information

• PDA Society Website: https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/

• PDA Society Training: https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/support-and-training/training/

• PDA Society Support Service: https://www.pdasociety.org.uk/support-and-training/support/

Guest Links

• Linda Murphy’s website: https://www.declarativelanguage.com/